Why I Will Never be in Kids Ministry

Tonight at our Upstream meeting it was my turn to teach the kids some stuff.

Its not something I do all that often, but it is one of those things I try to do to occasionally. Last week Simmo had us looking at the creation story and as I sat pondering ‘where to’ I felt it could be good to move on from there to the Noah story.

Suddenly ideas were wooshing thru my mind… it was one of those ‘mini-brainwaves’… kind of…

The plan was to make paper boats – you know where you fold the paper and create a boat? We would make the boats and then put people and animals in them and then have a flood!…

So I went to the shop to buy one of those packs of $2.00 plastic farm animals. Hmmm… couldn’t find em. But what I did discover was a pack of jelly babies and a pack of confectionary animals. Even better!!

So I told some of the story, we built our boats, wrote our names on them and then each placed two people (Mr & Mrs Noah) as well as a pair of confectionary animals inside them.

Once ready we went to the bath to experience the flood…

And it was every bit as traumatic as the real thing! You see after launching the boats and letting them float for a bit, I thought it would be more realistic if I turned the tap on and simulated the water rising…

So I turned the cold tap on and within seconds several boats got sucked back into its surge. Capsizes were everywhere and most critically lollies sank to the bottom of the bath.

I began to hear crying.

I hadn’t counted on this.

It seemed like a great plan to me…

But I am not 5 years old.

Ellie was the one in tears and others were looking like they were about to follow. It was time to call a halt to the flood and rescue all that was in trouble.

Of course by now the ‘point’ of the exercise was completely lost as the kids scrambled to retrieve lost lollies and waterlogged boats.

As I put Ellie to bed she asked “Dad can we please not do a flood again. I was very sad about the lollies”

The 200 Turnaround

This question came via email from a mate. I asked if I could throw it up on here to get some input. So wise people in blogland… offer your insights!

My own thoughts are below the questions…

What you think a group of 200 people doing a missional incarnate movement would look like?

What values they would have?

What would the practical outworking look like?

What paid staff would you have, if any?

Ok… my response!

Hmmm… this is a very tough question actually because I reckon its hard to get 10 people on the same page let alone 200!

I have always thought it would be an interesting experiment to get to the end of a Sunday service and say ‘ok folks – that’s it – we’re done – church in this form is over for ever. But we’d love you to keep serving in the community and meeting together, so why don’t you figure out what you’d like to and make it happen?’

Putting the iniative back onto the people to make it happen would spawn some very interesting results I imagine a few possible outcomes…

1. Some would breathe a sigh of relief and live very loose unstructured lives that connected as they were able but often went for long periods of time with no gathering. I imagine they would either form up into a bunch of people meeting regularly with some purpose or they would disapate altogether.

My guess = 20%

2. Some would go and join another church because that is the only lens they have to view church thru and to ‘not attend’ would be simply unimaginable. This is the easiest solution because to do an unstructured thing would feel wrong, but to start from scratch means letting go all the services of a larger church.

My guess = 50%

3. Some would see it as the opportunity to re-think what they were doing and to ask the hard questions all over again – what is church? why do we do this? what is essential? what is peripheral? what are we on about?

My guess = 15%

* Some would drift off into the ether and never be seen in any kind of church again.

My guess = 15%

I guess there are other options but I can’t think of any more at the moment!

So by my rather pessimistic reckoning I am saying there are probably only 15% of your congregation really up for this kind of disruption to the ‘church’ segment of their life. And my guess is that once they’ve walked the road for a while there might be half of them peel off back to the church down the road.

Sorry – that’s not very hopeful is it?

So… if that’s the likely scenario I guess I am saying I feel it is unlikely to ever see a whole very established congregation moving in this direction.

Can you lead people thru a process of devolution? My good mate Stuart Wesley has been able to pull of a shift of this kind at Network Vineyard but that was in a 7 year old church with 100 people. They have re-invented themselves as a genuine network but they do still meet every Sunday. I know Stu is giving thought to paring this back to once a month or fortnight.

I have a sense that to make changes to a large established beast it will mean some level of compromise and a framework more like that of NCCC where the old runs parallel with the new. Those who get the new ‘incarnational movement’ stuff can pursue it but the others can keep meeting in various congregations as they are used to.

These guys have found a healthy middle ground and seem to have been able to hold consistent values across the congregations while allowing for great diversity.

You asked what kind of values this kind of church would have…

I’d say there would need to be a very simple and easily communicated notion of what the church is on about. One of the things Thom Rainer said was that if we want people to ‘get ‘our stuff then it must be easily ‘drawable’ and also uses some level of imagery. He quotes Andy Stanley’s church where the goal is to get people from the ‘foyer’ into the ‘lounge room’ and then into the ‘kitchen’ because this is where serious action occurs. Our own image is that of getting people to ‘swim upstream’. I imagine some very simple concepts easily spread would be pivotal here. Anything remotely complex or confusing will have people wilting.

As for practical outworking?

I imagine this will follow whatever purpose you set for the community. If its focus and hub is a worship event then this gets the best of our energies. If its focus is the local community then this ought to get the best of our energy and attention. Reality is that we are deeply programmed to default to our worship event settings, so that even when we set out with a new intention we often find ourselves back setting up the chairs and sound system!

I do tend to think that if there is to be a genuine change then it will result in a large shift in behaviour. People will need to do significantly different things, (acting their way into a new way of thinking) otherwise they will flop back very quickly.

I would be establishing some common practices that keep the whole ship pointing in the same direction. That way people know what is expected as a lowest common denominator.

As for paid staff?…

I guess it all depends on whether you try to hold it together centrally or just ‘let it go’ out there in the community. These days I find myself leaning towards very little centralised authority/control so in my mind it may look like a mess, but because of that it may not need any staffing.

If there is some attempt at oversight then I would still try to keep it to a minimum. Part of the problem with where we have been, is that once someone is paid to do ministry everyone else does it to a lesser degree. I know we don’t say it like that (“its about equipping”) but reality is that people give it away to the paid guys.

Whatever you do:

– listen to the spirit and follow him. Our good ideas are nothing if not inspired by God.

– remember ideals are great, but they are called ‘ideals’ because that’s what they are!

– have courage – maybe you will pull something off that others have been unable to.

Anyway – I have been thinking out loud for the last half an hour. What do others think they would do to re-orient an established church with 200 people in a missional incarnational direction?

Books & The Burbs

I’ve read a couple of books lately that are worth a mention.

Call to Commitment by Elisabeth O’Connor was written in 1963 and documents the story of Church of the Saviour in Washington DC. These were a mob of people who were well ahead of their time when it came to dreaming about how the church could be a tight knit group of disciples as well as an open and inclusive community.

The book tells the story of how they emerged, developed and have continued changing. Well worth a read for missionary thinkers!

I have also just finished Simple Church by Thom Rainer and Eric Geiger, a book that didn’t quite meet up to my expectations. I read the first chapter online and sensed that these guys were saying some good stuff… and they are… its just that it hits on what feels like quite a mechanical approach to church.

Church still seems to become something of a factory line where if you get the mechanisms right then everything turns out great. Of course life is much more messy than this!

They write of 4 primary factors in a simple church – clarity, movement, alignment and focus and suggest that if you can get these 4 elements in place then it will happen. There is much good in what they say – much practical common sense wisdom for tired run down pastors spinning many plates and about to crash and burn. Their research shows that churches with the simplest processes and minimalist approach to programming actually do a much better job of disciple making than churches with all the bells and whistles.

If you are a pastor of an established church then you ought to read this book and pay attention. Where I feel it is weak is that by default it simply rolls back to that old mentality of discipleship occuring as people:

a) come to church (worship)

b) are then moved into a small group (community)

c) and then ultimately find a ministry (service)

Truth is people may become disciples along that path, but plenty can also travel the path and not encounter Jesus at all.

Read it with your eyes open and brain in gear and it’ll offer some great insights. Read it as ‘the answer’ and you’re dead in the water already.

I have also ordered 3 ‘suburbia’ books and am looking forward to getting stuck into them. They are:

Death by Suburb, subtitled how to keep the suburbs from killing your soul. I’ve have read snippets online and am interested to read the whole thing.

Then there is The Suburban Christian by Albert Hsu. I don’t know much of this book, but came across it via Simon Holt’s blog, where Hsu made a comment. Hsu’s blog is here.

And finally I have also ordered The Good Life by David Matzco McCarthy. I picked it up thru Simon Holt again and you can read his thoughts on it here.

I just noticed that Simon has also recommended this book – Australian Heartlands – so it could be next on my shopping list.

I am intrigued by what it means to live as a disciple of Jesus in the suburbs – what it means to ‘swim upstream’ when the current pulls so strongly in the opposite direction – when self fulfillment is the ultimate goal.

At the death by suburb blog there has been some discussion about whether we ought to just admit that suburbs are cancerous to any kind of spirituality and evacuate. Or… ought we stay and try to influence these places?

I know when I first saw the suburb we now live in I was drawn to it because it felt so barren and so soul-less. I was attracted to the idea of how the gospel could infect and transform a community with hope and beauty and a whole different imagination of how life could be.

Truth is its bloody hard work to do that.

Its hard to avoid the trappings of the consumerist life yourself, but to try and offer an alternative reality is equally difficult. Jesus call to ‘deny yourself, take up your cross daily and follow’ doesn’t resonate really well with the person who has subscribed to the gospel of ‘just a litle bit more and I will be happy’. It sounds like absolute nonsense, and yet I believe the gospel for so many here in the burbs is that ‘you can get off the merry go round! You can stop climbing the ladder and you can be content with life as it is’.

What makes it harder to convey a message like this is that in our own lives we are reasonably affluent (or ‘effluent’ as Kath and Kim would say!) and we don’t need to grind as hard just to get by. I can work 4 days a week and we can live on that, but I appreciate (some) others need to work two jobs just to get by.

Many times we have considered selling up, giving it all away and going to live among the poor, but the weird reality is that we actually feel deeply called to live here and figure out what discipleship looks like here in the burbs.

So hopefully those books will help!

Guidelines for Critiquing the Emerging Church

I am sooo very tired of reading many inaccurate critiques of this beast that is labelled ‘the emerging church’. And while its a tag that I don’t much care for (because of the associated vagaries) it is also a label that I find myself sitting under for better or worse.

So for those who feel the need to continue writing their critiques let me offer some guidelines:

1) Your critique is welcomed

. I know I am always happy to learn and I would not claim to be the final authority on issues of theology, missiology or ecclesiology. A well thought out and well researched critique will actually help those of us who see it as our calling to live as missionaries in this world to fulfill our calling more effectively. Some have done a great job of this. Thank you.

2) Make sure your research is expansive and accurate or your conclusions are gracious and provisional. With all due respect to my American friends, it seems that every critique I have read of the EC only addresses the USA scene and it does feel rather narrow in perspective. I would suggest that the shape the EC takes in the UK, NZ , Canada and Australia (to name just a few places) is as varied as the shape the mainstream conservative church takes. If you refer only to Dan Kimball, Doug Pagitt and Brian McClaren and then make some strong and vitriolic assertions, don’t be surprised if some of us wonder about the credibility of your research and treat it with disdain.

3) Remember Brian McClaren is not our spokesperson – but he is a person. I have never met Brian but I feel for the poor bloke. He is probably the most quoted of all so called EC leaders and yet I would not regard Brian as either my leader or as my spokesperson. For that matter there would be no American who I would feel could accurately speak for me or for the bulk of my Oz mates in similar situations. But please remember that Brian is a human being like the rest of us who is simply gracious enough to admit that he doesn’t know everything about everything. (And as Ellie (see the comments) reminds us, Mike Frost and Alan Hirsch do not speak for the rest of the emerging church in Oz)

4) Not everyone is down on propositional truth in fact I don’t think I know too many EC Aussies who would dismiss propositional truth at all. A more humble approach to scripture is not a denial of its truth, simply a recognition that we do not know completely. Please frame this correctly as you misrepresent many of us in this assertion.

5) Please don’t tell me what I believe!. You don’t know me. You probably don’t know 99% of people in EC’s so please don’t assume you know what we believe. I am constantly amazed at some of the stuff I am apparently signed on to! I am unashamedly conservative theologically, but I am willing to ask questions and I am open to other people’s questions. I think this is called ‘learning’.

6) If you write nonsense then don’t get precious if you get taken to task on your critique. Chances are you will get ignored as most people can’t be bothered fighting futile battles, but occasionally you might get shirt-fronted by someone who has had a gutful of spiteful critics. I try to stay away from the uninformed one eyed bloggers and writers but occasionally I will spend a few moments responding to the vitriolic tirades that turn a crank in me. Then I will usually spend the rest of the week wishing I hadn’t…

I’m sure there are more guidelines to add so if you have also been on the receiving end of some of this critique and have a few of your own ideas then add them in the comments.

Zealotry

Why do we sometimes feel compelled to add a few extra-biblical rules to how we see discipleship?

Scot Mcknight has a great 5 part series on ‘zealotry’, and the putting of fences around the Bible, which he suggests is every bit as unbiblical as liberalism’s dispensing with biblical truth. As usual Scot makes a lot of sense.

You can start reading here

shining the dvd

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