Names With-held

I was feeling it’d be great to go hang with some other Christians on Sunday so I looked at the local church website and saw that they had a 5.30 evening service ‘cafe-style’. Now call me a sceptic but as I see it that is almost always code for ‘plastic tables in the church hall with instant coffee and no atmosphere’, but we were keen to meet up with some other folks so we thought we’d give it a whirl.

Don’t you hate it when your scepticsms prove true?… I was hoping we’d be pleasantly surprised and that we’d meet some great people and learn some new stuff…

But we entered a cold church hall at 5.30 where 8 or 9 plastic tables were scattered 3 of which were filled. We didn’t know whether to sit at a table, stand around and look lost or just leave… But we had wandered too far in to turn back so we found ourselves at the little table near the front where the woman wanted to take our order.

Basically apart fron hot drinks the only options were soup or raisin toast. So we ordered two of each and went to sit down. A tip for you if you are doing this kind of thing – smile at people and make conversation. It will compensate for the drabness of your environment and it will communicate that you are a friendly person…

So we went to a table and sat down. I expected that some of those from the 3 tables already seated would come over and say G’day. Obviously that was a big expectation as we sat on our own in a room of 20 people for the next 15 minutes… all the time wondering ‘should we just bale?’ It was cold, tacky and unfriendly – everything you would hope not to encounter.

I dunno about you, but this kind of thing really gets my goat. I don’t think we looked particularly scary or hard to engage with, but sadly we were largely left to ourselves. We did get a fleeting ‘hi – nice to have you here’ from the pastors wife and one gem of a bloke sat and chatted to us for a good 20 minutes in between taking orders. His efforts impressed us greatly, but the sheer lack of any attempt by the others left us puzzled. Surely when some people wander in who are clearly new you would go out of your way to welcome them?…

Apparently not.

With the meal finished by 5.45 we had another 45 mins to kill because the church ‘service’ didn’t start until 6.30. I was for doing a runner, as I figured that if part 1 was a taste of things to come then I would only go home more annoyed.

But I was outvoted by the other members of the family and we ended up joining their Sunday night gig for the next hour.

 Again the bizarre happened when in a room of 50 people the leader asked if ‘there were any new people?’ I’m sitting thinking ‘you all know each other and we are the only unfamiliar faces here, but you still want me to raise my hand?’ I don’t like this approach especially after these people didn’t want to know me over dinner. Now they want to give me their info and get my details?… You have got to be kidding!

The service rolled on – one of those very Pentecostal type affairs which is not my cup of tea either. I am all for being open to the HS, but I felt like I had stepped into the set of an American TV evangelist show. Curiosity kept me there but after a very sketchy sermon about ‘living in the spiritual’ rather than the natural we were all invited to come to the front so the HS could ‘minister to us’ (or so the pastor could push us over) 

I was tempted to head up there to see how good he was… in hindsight I probably should have… but I was tired of the whole thing and managed to convince the others that we should just leave.

I write all that because it’s a reminder to me of how unwelcoming and foreign church culture can be to the outsider. For all those folks knew we could have lived in the town and not been believers but I suspect if we were they would not have seen us again.

And this is not an isolated event… 

Sigh

What Have We Become?…

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As I was surfing today another bloke paddled out and we got chatting.

He was an ‘old bloke’ too and happy to share waves and generally enjoy the beauty of the morning. We spent about an hour in the water at the same time and found out quite a bit about each other in between waves. I was enjoying the conversation and the engagement.

He told me he lived just behind the dune and asked if I wanted to come back and see some images of the beach at its best. His mate is a photographer and snaps some great pics around the Coffs area. Do you know what my first response was?

Well actually it was ‘Yeah – I’d love to’…

But… it was followed by a series of questions.

– Why would he invite me back to his place when he hardly knows me – in fact he’s only just met me?

– Is he getting a commission from the photographer?

– Is he gay and hitting on me?

Pretty tragic hey?…

It was a good bloke doing a decent thing and being second guessed by another bloke who has been conditioned to think the worst of people – that he might not just be offering coffee and the shared joy of seeing some great pics – but he might have an ulterior motive.

It really pisses me off that we have got to this as a society where ‘goodness’ is second guessed and acts of kindness are treated with skepticism.

Whatever happened to the kind of world where people could just make friends, invite them home and enjoy the moment?

We are a sad suspicious bunch now aren’t we?

For the record, I went, we had a tea (still a fussy bugger when it comes to coffee) and he showed me some magic images of his backyard, as well as giving me some great tips for where to go while we are in the area.

Thanks Mark – you have inspired me to live differently in my own backyard.

And if you’re interested you can see the images here

Quote of the Day

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‘the best surfer in the water is the one having the most fun’ Phil Edwards 1962

if that is true then I rocked today!

We have been staying at Sapphire Beach about 9km north of Coffs and last night I watched the groms pull into some heavy little beachies and wondered if the next day might hold promise…

With 2-3ft of swell, a light offshore and only one other bloke in the water today was pretty damn nice. The tide made the waves break further out and we shared a couple of hours of classic fun.

I was the best surfer in the water today – no question!

When Old Blokes Don’t Rule…

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When we arrived in Alstonville yesterday we did a quick drive out to the coast to check out the surf potential.

We had heard there were good waves and I was aware (from years of reading surfing magazines) that Lennox Head was in the vicinity and was well worth a look.

As we drove down the coast we saw surf everywhere and it was more a case of ‘where?’ not ‘if?’ The beachies looked decent and we saw a couple of point breaks that looked ok and then there was Lennox… It looked magic and was the pick of the crop, but also the most crowded.

Today’s choice was between quality or solitude… Usually I choose solitude and surf crappy waves, but today I figured I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to surf one of Australia’s classic waves while I was in the area.

We had a quick look at Flat Rocks which looked big and shifty and not that appealing before heading down to the Lennox. There were some beautiful lines rolling thru and several packs of guys sitting at different take off spots.

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Despite feeling an urge to quickly change in brown underwear (its been a while since I have surfed decent sized waves) I was stoked to be able to have a crack at somewhere like this. My very patient wife and kids would play on the beach while I did my best not to embarrass myself…

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So I strolled down to the inner take off spot which was much less crowded and tried to find a way out… but it wasn’t happening. Large boulders covered in barnacles sloped away gradually into the ocean bottom but a decent sized wave kept thundering across them, so it was obvious that I wasn’t going to get out without a fight and maybe some board damage. No one else was trying to head out there so I thought maybe that was a sign…

I followed a couple of locals up to the outer section and hoped to watch them jump first. They stopped and chatted, so I just decided to give it a whirl anyway. I stepped out on the rocks as far as I could get without getting hammered, waited for a decent sized wave, jumped and paddled like crazy… I made it a few meters before the bottom sucked out and the board scraped on some rocks. Oh well… I kept paddling – this wasn’t the spot to check out the damage.

Once thru that section I was into the take off zone pretty easily and straight into a nice looking and good sized wave… only to discover that there was someone on the inside… Bugger… I have a fairly high regard for surfing etiquette, so I pulled off and let him go on a beauty of a wave.

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For the next hour and a half getting waves was tricky. Partly because of the shifty peaks that moved around and occasionally caught us inside, but also because most people out there were much better – or at least younger – than I… It was frustrating to paddle into a beautiful wave only to see someone further inside and then having to pull out. It was disheartening to feel weary arms after having to duck dive thru a few waves and fight my way back out.

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I did score a couple of decent waves but the crowd factor meant it was more of an experience than a true joy. I can now saw that I ‘have done it’… for what that’s worth… For me it was worth sacrificing my solitude for today.

While out there I was chatting with a bloke who had lived there for 25 years and obviously knew the place well. I asked him where to ‘go in’ after I’d finished. He just said ‘where-ever you like. It’s a mess in there.’

Some huge storms in recent months had shifted all the barnacle encrusted rocks around to the shore so everyone was now having to take it very careful to make it in. I decided to take the long route via the bay and avoid board and personal damage, but a mistimed wave saw me changing those plans. After take off the wave closed out and rolled me in close to shore. I felt the rocks under foot and made the decision to head in rather than make my way back out.

It was every bit as tricky as it looked. Adrenalin is useful stuff for getting thru these dodgy situations! With it pumping rapidly thru my veins I managed to navigate a couple of oncoming waves, stumble over the rocks and drag my board to safety. Once on land I saw blood streaming from both feet, my left shin bruised and my left thigh was badly corked.

I didn’t even look back out. It was time to call it a day and accept that some days ‘old blokes don’t rule’…

Would I do it again?…

Ha… That’s a no brainer, hey?…

Alstonville

Where?

That’s where we are now – staying in the Alstonville showgrounds, a little town about 12km from Ballina. We saw the campspot in the Camps 4 book and thought we’d check it out.

For $15.00 a night we get a powered space under a big pavilion, so if it rains we are well covered. Given the cooler weather a bit more sun would be nice, but we decided to cover ourselves against rain and went undercover.

One of our first impressions of this little town was its friendliness. We drove in while the markets were on so we had to spend a couple of hours just kicking around while the pavilion cleared. We had a bunch of people wanting to chat and make conversation. A walk thru the town today took a long time because we got talking to a couple of people in a local shop…

It’s a nice spot and well worth a stop if you are doing the journey.

Gold Coast Yes – Surfers Paradise NO!

Last Sunday we stopped in for our mid trip break in a Surfers Paradise apartment. We got it on eBay for a decent price and were looking forward to 7 nights of living indoors, having space to spread out and not having to worry whether it was cold or raining.

We were all looking forward to it, but it’d be safe to say that we’re all glad to be back in camping mode these last two days.

The apartment had some things going for it:

– it was bigger than the camper

– it had a dishwasher

– it had a TV that worked

– the bathroom was close to us

– we didn’t have to clean it

But we discovered that for various reasons it just didn’t excite us and we don’t see ourselves going back to Surfers Paradise any time soon. Why?…

– Surfers is like a city on the beach and the traffic was terrible. We traveled at an average of 30km/hr everywhere we went.

– The noise was incredible. Between people yelling, sirens going off and night club music we often found it hard to get to sleep. If you left your windows open during the day you couldn’t have a conversation.

– The bed was crap… what can I say? That is the pits. Our camper bed is really comfortable and we expected it to be at least comparable. It was springy and unstable so we kept rolling.

– You couldn’t tell the kids to ‘go and play’ because the only space they have is indoors or the balcony. When we are camping they find so much to keep themselves amused. So they ended up watching TV… not what we would hope…

I enjoyed a couple of good surfs down at Greenmount (Superbank) and we took a drive up to Mt Tamborine and enjoyed some spectacular scenery. We took the kids to Seaworld and they loved it, so there were some good moments, but the big citylike feel was what ultimately undid us. It was like living in Northbridge on Scarborough (for those west ozzies who know what I mean)

If we had our time over I think we might hang out in Tweed or somewhere smaller for a few days, but we would avoid Surfers all together.

I think we will be hanging out in smaller, quieter spaces for the rest of our time…

Oops That’d Be The ‘Superbank’

I took some time to drive down the coast on my own today and check out the surf at some different places. It was onshore slop in Surfers so I wasn’t holding great hope, but as I drove I saw a few nice waves.

Burleigh was ok but pretty busy and Currumbin didn’t look too bad either. I drove down as far as D’Bah where there were about 100 guys in the water – admittedly the best wave I had seen all day, but I just couldn’t bring myself to entering the dogfight. I don’t enjoy that kind of surfing and never have.

So I made my way back to a smaller but half decent looking wave in Rainbow Bay. The next couple of hours were pretty sweet with some half decent right handers peeling thru and no great crowd. The arms were like jelly when I got out but it was worth it.

While out there I discovered that I was actually surfing what was the ‘Superbank’. It was one of the most legendary waves in Oz as the local council pumped sand out of the Tweed River and it created magic banks around the corner a bit giving some of the longest rides you can imagine.

All that has changed now as the sand shifting has stopped, but its still good enough for old blokes who hate crowds!

Here it is at its ‘best’ and worst with mega crowds

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This was it was today. A rather pale reflection, but it’ll do…

 

Old Blokes Rule

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A mate has started selling a range of surf-gear for ‘old blokes’ He gave me one with this logo on it, but you can go to the website and check out the other designs.

I love it and reckon its pretty good stuff for those of us who can’t quite claim to be young any more…

Just Havin Fun

While we were at Jason’s place we saw this sign on the post near the road. We discussed how to respond…

sign1

This was our first sign – a more ‘philosophical’ approach

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And this was our second…

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Can’t wait to see what develops now!

Knob

About a month before we left for this trip I bought a new wetsuit. My wetsuit purchases mirror my clothes purchases these days. Price outweighs style every time…

So with some ‘Com ocean’ wetties on special at the local camping store for just $60 I was right there. I purchased a ‘large’ without even trying it on and headed home happy with my purchase – a real bargain! I should have tried it on as it was clearly made for a ‘large’ Asian man… and was a tad tight for me. However 2 surfs got it worn in and it was feeling good.

Then on my third surf – yesterday morning – the zip broke – just as I was about to paddle out… Bummer… And the receipt is in a filing cabinet at home.

We needed to get a new tap for the camper as the old one had lost it’s pumping action so I headed down to BCF to get the tap and try to exchange the wetsuit.

I picked up the tap and then spent the next 30 minutes waiting for the BCF crew to sort out wetsuit. They spoke to their supplier who agreed to an exchange, but then they couldn’t find that exact model in stock… So the manager got involved and tried to find a solution. I waited patiently in the hope that things would work out well… And the BCG people worked hard to sort things out… It was taking a long time and I was doing my best not to get annoyed.

When the manager came to see me after half an hour of confusing phone calls back and forward she informed me that the reason they couldn’t find the exact match was because I had purchased it as Anaconda… They are the sole distributors of ‘Com Ocean’ wetsuits…

As the words left her mouth I had that embarassing and excruciating memory of having actually bought the wetsuit in their Osborne Park store…

Did I feel like a knob?!…

After some apologies (and relief that I hadn’t become pushy with them) I headed off to Anaconda where they did a straight exchange and sent me on my way. Sadly they didn’t have an XL so I am back wearing an L and hoping the zip doesn’t bugger up.

If it does then at least I will go to the right shop this time!